Let’s take a moment to talk about online hate and haters
Quite a few people asked me if I ever receive any online hate and how I deal with it. Of course, I do. From the people who hate it that I get to travel and those who really hate it when I talk too fast/loud, to those who have an issue with the way I edit my photos, those fighting for the privacy rights of those captured in my street photography and most recently, those that consider that I have violated the sanctity of the holy Instagram by daring to post written content on stories instead of a blog.
For a while I was quite bothered by them all, but at some point it all clicked for me and I understood that if I wouldn’t be criticized, then I wouldn’t be doing it right and the fact that people care enough to oppose what I am doing means that they are out there, watching. Nowadays I encourage any types of interaction, good or bad and I reply with a smile on my face to whatever it is that I receive in my DMs, knowing that myself and my content are important enough for someone to have taken a few seconds/minutes to write me a message.
See, hate messages are not only intentional, but sometimes they might be accidental, with some people not even trying to be aggressive or mean, nor realizing the passive aggressiveness and impact their words have on other, but the effect is still the same. That’s why I think that there is no good excuse for it and that we should all be more careful with not only what we say, but the way we choose to deliver our message, as well.
When we are not paying attention to either, we all tend to spill our negative moods and feelings we have for totally unrelated reasons into what we say.
Of course there are, as well, people who just enjoy spreading negativity and although they are the worst ones of the bunch it is important to remember that regardless of what they might be saying, they are your biggest fans and they will always be there watching, paying close attention and engaging as often as possible – claiming it is solely so they can see when you slip up and provide them with a reason to engage, but we all know that it is because they just can’t have enough of what you post.
That’s why you should never let negative messages bring you down, discourage you, lead you to consider changing your creative path or make you quit anything. It should be quite the contrary! All those messages should make you realize that you’ve achieved ultimate goals of social media; something not many succeed to ever do regardless of how hard they try: starting a conversation, making people feel something and giving people something to think about… and for that I commend you and you should be proud of yourself.